Being angry at Jake's dad, again

We have been divorced almost 18 years now and he still can rattle my little world. You just do not all the way free when you have kids. This time Sam 'borrowed' money from Jake for flight back to the states from the Phillipines, his choice to move there, not Jake's. I know Sam loves Jake, but that does not stop him from using him, nor does it make Sam put Jake first, what Jake needs or wants. Sam's wife spends money like it is water and Jake ends up shafted over it. Not Jake's marriage, not his job to hand over his hard earned savings, but it is his money and his choice to make. It burns my that Sam would ask, again, and I am not mad at Jake, Dad has him by the heart strings. If you cannot afford the flight costs, you need to stay on one side of that Pacific ocean or the other. Sam and Cynthia made the choice to sell out the farm and move to her country, now they need to live with their choices, pay their own way and let Jakevwork on making his life work with no farm, horses or ranch future to look forward to. And once again Sam has me crying, stressed, depressed and what he does to MY son makes a mess of my head, again. His son too, and he is using him like his family did to Sam, he vowed our boy would never be used that way....and now is doing the same damn stuff to our boy as his family did to him. Not much I can do but love Jake and keep being Mom.